“My husband and I started having problems in our marriage a little over three years ago. It was frustrating for me because we had such a wonderful loving relationship. After one particular indiscretion of his, I finally gave him an ultimatum, “Find us a counselor!”
He scrambled through the phone book and called a few numbers. James was the first to get back to him. My husband was not looking forward to the process but when James called and spoke to him in his English accent, that changed some. My husband’s best friend had recently moved back to England so an English accent was a positive. When we met James and began exchanging information, we found that we had other things in common with him that helped my husband feel comfortable.
With James, we found someone who could really see what we were struggling through. My husband was still very concerned; he’s a very private person. But he listened to James’ suggestions and he worked with me on our issues. James’ neutrality (my husband said he’s like Switzerland!) helped a lot. My husband thought he would always be in the “hot seat” because it always seemed that he was mostly at fault for whatever issue was the problem. But James was always respectful and non-biased.
Things got worse before they got better, but lucky for me, I had James. During one particular horrendous join marital therapy session, James made arrangements for me to have a phone session the very next day because he knew how distraught I was. If I didn’t have James to talk to during that time, I don’t know what I would’ve done.
Because of James, I was able to get through this painful part of my life. He gave me much needed support and compassion and made me feel like I wasn’t alone. My confidence was at an all-time low and the pain was making me so physically sick that I lost 10 pounds in two weeks. James gave me the hope, healing and reassurance that I so desperately needed.
There are other counselors out there, but no one like James. I have referred at least three other couples to him. Only one actually started therapy with him. Of the other two, one is separated and one will inevitably be divorced soon.
Now over three years later, my husband and I are on the right track in our marriage, using some of the communication tools and other “tricks” that James taught us. If it wasn’t for James, I’m not sure our marriage would have survived. Thanks James!”